I get what you mean (insert a comment t from....lol)
It's obvs going through stages, and but I don't think people necessarily need to "do more" in the hope of being selected. There are plenty of us who are on here everyday, and multiple times a day, but still "ain't so lucky as some" (no, not a winge, just an observation).
We now n again have a moan... We are human, although I get more stick for it, but that's ok, cos it takes away from others, and I can handle it.
Some people do see such comments as complaining, instead of what they are... A comment on what you're observing. Sometimes even, just a comment summing up what's being said across posts.
Franz tho, is cool and doesn't judge 🤪